Sigh. Seemed to grew fatter. 53kg now after dinner. Morning about 52.3kg. :( 

Hopefully I can turn 50 kg by sep 12!! 2 more weeks 

Saying no to Ur kids

1. "Asked and answered."

This is the motherload of all chocolates. Although I use the four below, I use this one ten more times then I use anything else. Let's replay the scenario from above.

Child: "Mommy, can I have this?"

Mother: "No, honey."

Child: "But Mom, I don't have one."

Mother: "Asked and answered."

Child: "You never get me anything."

Mother: "Asked and answered."

If the child keeps at it, you become a robot, saying the same three most blissful words over and over and over again.

2. "I'm done discussing this."

Child: "Can Ashlyn spend the night?"

Mother: "No, she just spent the night here last week."

Child: "Please?"

Mother: "I'm not discussing this again."

Child: "But ..."

Then, from the mother, all action, no words. Smile pleasantly, tilt your head to the right, give the best devil eyes you can, and then simply walk away.

3. "This conversation is over."

Child: "Can I ride my bike?"

Mother: "No, it's raining outside."

Child: "But I'll wear my rain coat and it's only sprinkling."

Mother: "This conversation is over."

Child: "But pleeeasssee?"

Mother: "Asked and answered."

Become your usual robotic self. Remember, you're a rock.

4. "Don't bring it up again."

Child: "I want these shoes."

Mother: "No, those cost too much."

Child: "But I don't like those."

Mother: "You're getting the shoes in the cart and that's final. Don't bring it up again."

Child: "I need them!"

Mother: "You brought it up again. There went your dessert for tonight."

Yes, you're going to get more crying with that response, but remember: getting your child to understand you mean business is a marathon, not a sprint.

5. "The decision has been made. If you ask again there will be a consequence."

Child: "Can I watch the iPad?"

Mother: "No, you know you're not allowed having technology at the table."

Child: "I won't get food on it."

Mother: "The decision has been made. If you ask again there will be a consequence."

Child: "But I promise!"

Mother: "I told you not to bring it up again. No iPad for the rest of the day."

Prepare for a few tantrums until your child learns they're not going to get anywhere. This is part of their normal testing stage.

Your child will eventually realize nothing changes your mind. This is how you will earn your child's respect and set up a relationship where your child accepts your decisions the first time.

Don't forget: their best friend, Timeout, is only a few short steps away.

Here's a success story: after years of using these phrases with my 4-year-old, I'm reaping the benefits everyday with no tears or fighting back.

Here's the conversation I had with my daughter, Charlotte, while writing this article.

Charlotte: "Can I have a cookie?"

Me: "Yes, you may have one."

Charlotte: "Can I have three?"

Me: "This conversation is over."

Charlotte: "OK, I'll just break it in half so I can have two."

Sure, I see some passive-aggressiveness in that last comment, but I still won the battle. She happily ate her one cookie and I happily continued typing at my computer.

You can have these blissful conversations, too. Laminate a card or start memorizing, but trust me, they're almost better than chocolate.

My bonus as mrs tang ;p

Hubby is so nice. He will share his bonus with me. And even ask if he should reward our helper as she has been taking good care of our elder son. :)

We watched voice of China together tonight. As we went into our room and I was looking at my phone, he presented this Angpow to me from behind. Gave me a kiss and say bonus for u. So sweet. :) what a nice hubby. Reminder to self: must save save save!

Preg weight : 60kg

After preg : 55kg

Today: 52kg 

Base on morning weight 

4 more kg!

Breastfeeding my 1 week old baby now. Suddenly just had this thought coming across my mind. Life is amazing. Can't believe this baby was what I've been carrying for the past 10 months. Abd then it arrived into the world so tiny and vulnerable, without any clothes on. A life just popped out of me! A life I vow that I will take care forever with all my heart and soul. 

Motherhood..... Can be so powerful. I really grew up a lot thru these :) im glad. 

This labour was much harder though it was shorter. So the epidural was administered to me at about 10am. Omg. The painful poke followed by a really achy ache travels into my left thighs as I curled up. It was after 5-10 seconds then I asked the doctor how come I have this ache travel down into my thighs and stay for so long. He say that's a current. ????? I don't understand. After that my BP was low. Until the nurse had to give me oxygen to breathe. That mask cost 10 bucks. -.- but I was really miserable lah. I was super weak and felt like sleeping but my thighs were so numb. The only thing that makes me thankful was each time the nurse checked me, I'm dilated by an additional of 2cm. So shortly after at 1 something i started pushing. The atmosphere was quiet. Only a dumb intern and a slightly experienced nurse. So the intern went push push push almost gently in her tone of voice. I'm already feeling damn weak and the voice isn't helping at all! 

And then nurse started telling me I have to hold my breath longer and push longer   I was breathless. She says I'm using strength on my face only. So the epidural was adjusted. Beginning was 8. I told them I was weak and all then they decrease to 6. When I started pushing, they decrease to 3 so that I can feel pressure. But still I wasn't doing too well. The nurse decreased to 0! OMG. Damn scared. But I felt much better while doing the push. The initial push when she ask me to push longer, I almost felt like puking. Alas when they told me to stop pushing and wait for gynae to come, I faater ask them to level up epidural. I won't want to feel that stitches pain can! So while waiting for gynae to arrive. Hubby actually said he saw that my bottom was enlarged as babys head is at the verge of coming out. -.- my doc lim is so slowwwwww. 

So anyway after q is out, the feeling was relieved. So relieved that q is a healthy boy!! And glad that the whole pushing ordeal was over. But the puke bug caught me. Started to have the urge to puke and I can only puke in lying down position as my stitch was getting done up. Sigh. Felt terrible as I shiver and felt light headed. On the other hand I really want baby to suckle. Want him to suckle while his adrenaline is still high. 

So end up he was on my breast , but shortly after 10 mins I felt pukish again and this time I puked more. Hubby didn't manage to find a plastic bag for me in time. Aiyo. Anyway it's really terrible lah. Baby had to be carried away and I really got to rest. And wait for the stupid numbness in my thighs to go away. Super gaowei to the max. 

Hungry. Numbness. Breathless. Giddy. Sleepy. Tired. Weak. All at once. Donno which is which. Until about 8pm when the troops arrived then I was able to regain my energy. What perks me up the most was my elder son's visit. :) he looked at didi with a sulky face at first. Almost like Wanna cry. I also felt like crying thinking what could have went thru his mind was why mummy don't want me already, why is she carrying another baby. Hahaa but after that he regained his emotions and yup. He's back to his own world walking like a gangster and dancing about. Lol. 

I have two sons now!!!! I'm a very lucky mummy. Blessed with healthy babies. Thank you daddy God. For making it easy for me. Mwah!

Went for gynae appointment today. I'm 40 weeks today! It's suppose to be my EDD but nope nothing like labour is happening. Morning I lose mucus plug. About 6-7am. Dr lim checked my cervix and say it's soft but well he didn't say how many cm. he looked at the chart and say I have mild contractions every 7mins. So ask me to go home and wait. Likely to be today or tmr give birth. Well....... I've been waiting.... And Nope i don't feel any contractions yet!! Hahaha. Can't be the first sg50 baby liao! 

Can't wait for birth to be over. Then I can spend the rest of my maternity leave with my two sons and my mummy who is coming back in sep. Hehehe. 

Okay. Will leave the rest in gods hands. Dear lord. I pray that the delivery would be smooth and in control. May u provide me with lots of strength and courage. Take over the whole delivery and I pray fo healthy son. In Jesus name. Amen!

I'm 39 weeks and 2 days today and I have not popped. Haha. My tummy is getting heavier and my baby's weight is from 3.4kg to 3.7kg. R was only 3.2kg when he was born. 

Anyway I'm just glad that my cervix wasn't checked during my last visit! Something that I dread the most. I wonder how would this labour turn out to be like! Hopefully a smooth one. I've prepared everything already! Presents for didi Q and korkor R. 

Oh still lacking of a playpen and I think we are ready.